While at the BioSiqnature course last week Charles Poliquin said “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Funny… my father said almost the same thing (the post’s title) to me over twenty years ago but in different words.
My Dad said it when I was misbehaving (most of you have no idea how big of an ass I was as a teen) and hanging out with terds. Hence, his relating my associates to poop and its inherit smell. Nowadays I correlate it more positive measures. When I decided to be a business person (in the fitness and health field), I stopped drinking and partying. More importantly, I began to surround myself with others who are health conscious, but just as important, successful.
I purposely only associate with healthy, successful people. I don’t have much time to just hang out, so when I do, I want to be around people worth talking to. I’ve made it a preference to only spent time with people I learn from and can benefit from just listening to them talk.
“You can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.” – Napoleon Hill, great American thinker and author.
When it comes to reaching health and fitness goals, it is difficult to do so if the only time you are around fit people is at CrossFit Wilmington. If all your friends eat junk, you do too. If your friends drink, you do to. If you’re friends are “drama queens” so are you. You cannot be successful if all you care about is FaceBook and what others are doing… or not doing I should say.
Conversely, if you go to dinner with three friends and each order a very healthy Paleo based meal, you are more apt to also. If at that same dinner, your friends order water with lime slices, you will less likely to order that double Jack and Coke.
Peer pressure works. It works both in favor and against positive improvements in life and health. So one of the healthiest things you can do is improve the quality of your friends and associates. A good example for me is Eric McGraw. Eric is a successful ART Chiropractor and has much I can learn from. I enjoy listening to him. He taught me a few new things about structural balance rehab using bands a few weeks ago. A few days later we had the opportunity to implement the techniques with a female client who recently switched to CFW. Just before that, Eric asked if I had ever read any of Napoleon Hill’s work. I have now and I am better for it.
If you’re having trouble figuring out if your friend(s) are worth being around, they probably are not. I heard once a mature person has health insurance and an excellent credit score. In today’s economy, the latter is hard to find, but successful, up-beat people with similar goals as yours are not. Seek them out.