John Velandra of CF Cape Fear sent this write from

"Build A Badass Inner Circle" 

What did each of your three best friends have for dinner tonight? Did they go out for pizza and beer?  Or did they sit down for a meal of chicken breast, almonds, and broccoli? 
 If you are trying to get fitter and healthier, you’d better hope the answer is closer to the latter than the former.
 Feel defensive?  What do your friends’ habits have to do with you?  You’ve read all about Zone proportions and Paleo food quality.  You train pretty hard five times a week, and you just PR’d your deadlift and Fight gone bad score.  Pretty good, right?
 If your inner circle isn’t training hard and eating well, then you’re not making the progress that you could be.  You’re literally throwing PR’s away. 
 Sure, those carboholic sluggards are your friends.  And if they want to poison themselves with sugar and alcohol, that’s their prerogative.  But their attitudes and habits are inevitably going to harm your training and nutrition.  If you would prefer to keep your current friends, you’ll be fine. You’re probably already doing most things right.  I don’t see diabetes or obesity in your future.
 Judging by the fact that you’re reading this blog, I doubt you’re satisfied with mediocrity. Haven’t you seen performances that made you re-evaluate your self-esteem?  9 minutes doesn’t seem so great on Helen when other guys are hitting 6:45.  A muscle-up doesn’t seem as impressive of an accomplishment when some athletes are hitting them with one arm and then pressing into a handstand.  What the hell are those guys doing? 
It’s exactly what you don’t want to hear.  Near always, the true animals are working harder than you are and eating better.  And a large part of that, is the environment they put themselves in.
Ask the guys at OPT or CrossFit Central or from the old Crossfit HQ.  They’ll tell you, that competing against and hanging out with some of the fittest and most disciplined athletes in the world is indescribably beneficial for their performance. 
On the other hand, when I see CrossFitters put themselves in toxic environments, I always see that no amount of personal discipline or motivation is going to make up for roommates that keep them up until 4 AM or friends that insist they drink beer every week end. 
 No matter who you are, your friends are going to affect your performance.  If you want to perform at an elite level, you need to make sure that your friends’ effect on you is positive.  Start building your badass inner circle now.

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  1. t. says:

    Peer pressure… My dad used to say to me, when I may have been doing "less healthy activities" and hanging out with "less healthy" people, that "if you hang with sh*t, you are gonna smell". That's the short of it.

  2. J.R. says:

    This post is SMACK on the money! Ilario P., one of my closest friends and the guy who got me started with CrossFit, was in NYC this weekend, and I hadn't seen him for 18 months. In the past, we would have had cigars and cocktails until late. This time, Thursday night was workout then Mexican chow with ZERO alcohol. We got together again Saturday morning for a WOD plus brunch, ZERO alcohol. Cigars? Not even considered. None of my friends in NYC do CrossFit, and while they see the outward results of my progress, they can't really understand what it means to care so much about pushing to constantly improve. My time with I.P. over the past few days reinforced how great — and important — it is to surround oneself with people who get it, who are in the fight with you, and who will support positive behavior both inside and outside of the gym.